In a world where knowledge is limitless and constantly evolving, we seek out new technological interventions and chase money. But somehow, as a society, we did not recognize that we needed to learn how to control our emotions, which enables us to focus, brainstorm, and be calm. It may have been because our school system back in the day did not emphasize the importance of student feelings and their organic responses to any issue. What if you had two options — everything in your control but you aren’t ready to think clearly or you have nothing to hold but always get in your mark to know where to start? Which would you choose?
When I read articles and listened to podcasts by some professionals in the business industry, I noticed that they all mentioned how emotional stability plays a crucial role in the current business world. On another podcast, a CMO (Chief Marketing Officer) of a footwear brand was interviewed. She asked him what he would teach his kids if he had a family? As a matter of priority, he said, “I would teach emotional stability to my children.”. His delivery of words and messages made me reflect more and spend more time reflecting on my feelings to prepare for anything. Am I ready to learn this? Can I handle this? What is the purpose of this? And so on.
My reasoning comes from my childhood experience of listening to what uppers (parents, uncles, aunts, relatives, seniors) do without interrupting them. As young children/grandchildren, my family emphasizes being polite to elders. The uppers stopped and punished me right away without giving me a reasonable explanation when I was still young and curious about how the universe was spinning this way. After some time, I stopped building my own world and became inactive when the Internet was already available. I was an introvert to every eye of teachers and classmates at school as well. School made me a less creative, intellectual kid and the method of studying without practical experiments left me with a narrow perspective. When explored deeply, the world was incredibly beautiful.
Is it wrong for me to express this experience? Perhaps I blamed my parents who gave birth to me this way, or God who also gave me this personality the very first day I stepped foot on earth, or my parents who were not wealthy enough to have fun, play, enjoy, and learn a true way. When I read this, I visualize myself as someone who isn’t satisfied with the way she grew up and is becoming. On the other hand, life does not have you on both sides, and you have to survive for your basic needs, and you must fight for and make efforts to accomplish goals that you have always valued. There is sometimes a dilemma in my head thinking throughout my life, one is to wish for a wealthy life and to be ambitious, the other is to be happy with what you have and still face the challenges. Whenever I wish for my ideal life, I always turn to look back at my parents still being together happily. I must say that I am very proud of my parents throughout the time I was raised from a young child to this young adult that I rarely see major disputes between them. While their characteristics are different, the rhythm of love remains the same.
When it comes to emotional stability, I believe sharing my childhood story can give some insight into this. When I was young, I used to envy my peers who had more opportunities than me. I used to blame my parents because they wouldn’t let me do what I wanted, I used to cry because of it. At one point in time, my mind was a completely chaotic pot, and these feelings still recur. When I become conscious and think that I have made a journey, maybe it is not as I expect or maybe my expectations are too high, but I am still content with what I’ve. My parents are happy and I only have two friends in my circle but they are kind and sometimes innocent to this world; they are gems to be preserved. Using my own savings, I traveled to my favorite country with my friends. I have completed my degree in Business – Marketing, but I am still self-learning in other areas to further my career. There isn’t a lot to say about these milestones and accomplishments, but they are worth remembering.
Thanks to my parents, I have more strength to determine and stand by my own feet because I have been inspired by them. Thank you to my friends for being honest with me when others endorsed materialism. Also, I would like to extend a sincere and proud thank you to myself for thinking more than doing more, for thinking before acting.