Why is the Relationship Audit More Important Now Than Ever?

Is there a secret recipe for a good life? Well, the Harvard Grant Study might have cracked it for us. This mega study tracked the mental and physical well-being of 268 young adults for 75 years, making it the longest and most thorough of its kind ever.

The study wrapped up in 2014 and dropped some surprising gems. It turns out, strong relationships beat out wealth, social status, fame, or even brainpower when it comes to predicting happiness and life satisfaction. On top of that, relationships are linked to living longer, staying healthier, and even financial success.

The last couple of years have made all of us rethink how we live. It’s also the perfect time to reevaluate our relationships after nearly two years of what feels like a new normal. Here are four simple steps to hit the reset button on your connections.

First, don’t be afraid to speak up about how you feel, whether it’s love, frustration, or discomfort. When you do, keep it real and come from a place of love. The words you pick and how you say them matter just as much as the message. Give your partner time to take it all in. Even if you don’t fully get their perspective right away, making an effort shows you care, even if those conversations feel scary.

Next, check in as a couple every few months. Think of it like a relationship tune-up. Talk about where you’re at as a team and as individuals. It might sound tough but it helps you steer your relationship in the right direction. Without these check-ins, it’s easy to miss how work stress, family stuff, kids, money worries, or new dreams might be wearing you both down. Getting on the same page keeps you connected and aware.

Also, make time for yourself. Keeping track of who you are and what you want matters just as much as your relationship. Seriously, try to carve out at least an hour a day for something chill and fun, whether it’s a walk, listening to your favorite tunes, doodling, painting, or journaling. Taking this alone time regularly helps you recharge and keep your balance.

Lastly, celebrate the wins, big or small. Birthdays, anniversaries, milestones, or just making it through a rough week—use all those moments to acknowledge and appreciate your bond. Feeling seen and appreciated is powerful. In a world full of stress and surprises, honoring these little rituals lets you soak in joy and reconnect fully.

Relationships don’t run on autopilot. They need attention and care to stay strong and healthy—think of it like self-care for your heart. Keeping both hands on the wheel keeps your bond steady and your spirit nourished.