Ah, gone are the days of shameless Hinge date hookups as the coronavirus continues to limit out social interaction – and ability to get laid. Now, my friends, do not fear your hand is here! If you do not know how to please yourself or your partner? Masturbation is a great way to come to terms with what you like in the bedroom department, and toys are fun to enhance that experience. Before quarantine, the only sex toy I owned was a small bean-like vibrator for clit stimulation, but now I am not ashamed to admit I have an entire drawer full! I have always been very standoff-ish towards toys but have been recently pleasantly surprised by the benefits of owning them. In this article, I will educate you on some of the top sex toys and explain in an inclusive way how they can magnify the sexual encounters you have with yourself and/or with a partner.
BUZZZZZZ… oh, sorry didn’t see you there. Ah, yes, the vibrator. Vibrators can come in many shapes and sizes, but their main purpose is to vibrate and stimulate parts of the body. You can get vibrators for the clitoris, for the g-spot inside the vagina, for the nipples, for the anus or for the penis or balls. Anyone and everyone can find comfort in de-stressing with a toy that vibrates. It gives off a different sensation that penetration does not provide and can help to broaden one’s sexual horizons. These toys are probably the best introductory toys to use if you have never tried a sex toy before! The simple bullet vibrator or vibrating cock ring is a great place to start. Then, once you level up and advance, you can even purchase vibrators by companies like Lovense that allow you to control the vibrations on your partner’s toys for long-distance sexual interaction.
Vibrators are a great way to help you reach a climax when masturbating alone but can also be used in the bedroom with a partner to enhance the orgasm. Having an orgasm with a vibrator is a completely different experience than having regular intercourse and provides a great way to spice things up if you are getting bored in the bedroom.
Dildos and Fleshlights
Vibrators are great, but what about toys for penetration? If you prefer sexual intercourse with a penis, then a dildo would be a great choice for you. Dildos come in many shapes, materials and sizes and can be specifically designed for penetrating the anus or the vagina, as per your preference. Whether silicone, glass, or rubber, there are many options, and some of them even vibrate! You can also purchase what is known as a pegging kit if you would like to use a dildo on a partner hands-free. Pegging kits are harnesses that attach to your waist and legs for support and allow you to wear a dildo (the sensation from this is very similar to dry humping for the person wearing the harness). If you prefer sexual intercourse with a vagina, there are fleshlights!
Fleshlights mimic a vagina, and some of them even vibrate within the walls of the toy. They are a great introductory toy to penetration that is easy to hold and use. The cool thing about the company Lovense I mentioned is that they have a fleshlight called the Max 2 connecting to the rabbit vibrator dildo called the Nora! When the one user moves the Nora, the person using the Max 2 will feel their exact movements through the Bluetooth connection, which is really revolutionizing long-distance play!
Alright last but not least, the iconic staple sex toy that every kinky little mouse has out there – the butt plug. The butt plug is an aesthetically adorable toy shaped like a small egg that you insert inside your anus that usually has a decal, diamond, or tail attachment to it. Okay, so wait, you’re telling me I can have a freaking tail?! Yes, sweety, and did you know that wearing a butt plug during masturbation or during vaginal sex can enhance your orgasm? Certainly! Also, wearing a butt plug is a great way to safely introduce yourself to butt play and anal orgasms. The best advice I was given from a kind lady at the Stag Shop was to start with your finger to see if you even like it first and to be sure to purchase a smaller plug about 0.25″ to 0.5″ to introduce yourself to the sensation. Another thing about our anuses is that they do not self lubricate, so be sure to use a lot of anal lube to prevent yourself from tears of painful stretching. Oh, and if you are going to use a butt plug or ANY sex toy, be sure to also purchase a toy cleaner and clean your toys after every use!
Overall, there are a multitude of sex toys to explore, and I have only scratched the surface! There are many more toys out there to use, including sex swings, sex machines, blow-up dolls, or BDSM equipment that may be worth looking into if you begin enjoying toy play. Sex toys are not just for old, divorced people, okay? Let’s break the stigma and normalize the use of sex toys during masturbation and/or intercourse.