September 26, 2021

14 thoughts on “Is Marriage Everything?

    1. Your Blog is so fun to navigate. I loved your Clothing trial pictures as well as the most recent post. I am happy to have find yours. Thank you very much for stopping by. Happy to have you on board. 🙂

    1. Thank you for the motivation. Thank you for taking out the time to comment. I just think and question a lot. People could not bear me asking questions in general so i started typing my questions. 🙂

  1. Marriage can be the greatest gift, a source of inspiration and a Divine Vision for your whole life, if it is based on true love. It can be everything, the fullness of life, a fresh miracle with every new day. And it is the job of your husband to empower you in every aspect of your life.

    1. And I absolutely agree to all of those beautiful statements. It is indeed a lovely and an enchanting journey to take while holding hands together through ups and downs. Marriage has to hold the same connotation for both the individuals involved to make it work. On the other hand, I am expressing about worldwide perceptions, to which women, especially women of marginalized segment are subjected to. I am not talking about institution of marriage. Two people building and sailing together in life is delightful. However, everybody is not blessed with such a blissful marriage. The way our society takes on situations is a lot different than realism. People belonging to lower strata of society, lacking basic human skills, those deprived of education and necessary resources, not so well brought up adults, and zillions of other harsh realities lead to a life not so devouring and appealing to people leading luxurious lives. I am not talking about one sort of marriage observing one couple. Marriages come in all forms of experiences, miseries and harmony. Whereas, some people experience the beauty of such an esteemed institution and some don’t. There are millions of things taking place behind closed doors such as domestic violence, Acid attacks, Marital rape, Slavery, Inequality, One Sided Compromises, Physical and Emotional Abuse and numerous other things. Basically, I mean to touch up on the bads of society to spread awareness and arouse conscience. I learn from the goods in society and appreciate them as much as I can, as often as I can.
      You are so thoughtful and considerate. Thank you very much for bringing up different leitmotifs of the write up. 

      1. Hello, Lovey 🙂 I thank you, for your profound response. And I agree with you: we live in a broken world and not in the Garden Eden. This is one important argument for marriage, because we need trustworthy companions on our way. Someone we can laugh and cry with, to celebrate and enjoy and embrace life. And, well, face the reality of death. I have no kitschy illusions about that. „Marriage is an armed alliance against the outside world“ (G.K.Chesterton) and it can maybe grow to something like a Garden Eden in a broken world, a meeting place of heaven and earth. The embryo of a New Creation.
        Blessings,
        Mark

        1. You are welcome. You don’t even need to thank me. I relish having such conversations about issues I feel strongly for. I am positively aggressive. Also, we are on the same mental page. I follow what you intend to communicate. Things can be good as well as bad, after all, it’s life and that’s what life is about. We have to only put our best foot forward to make our lives healthier and emerge out with flying colors rather than thumping foot in anguish over life for no valid reason. We need right people to lead a joyful and jubilant life. Everybody is beautiful in their own way. Bless you.
          Best Regards
          Lovey

  2. I most certainly agree. I understand where you are coming from but all I am trying to precise, it does not stop merely at irrelevant questions.There are many other gruesome “rules” related to marriage which are essentially forced on women more than men. Men are mostly forced by their parents to marry because they are completely obsessed about “settling down their sons” with the “fairest, Slimmest, taciturn and morose” girl who brings in dowry more than those greedy peeps have ever earned in life. And, please agree to me, Relationships can never last on greed, especially The “sacred” marriage.
    Women are not given education as parents will not be able to get them married off easily. Why? They get hassled for “dowry” enough; they don’t want to spend much on education because of “dowry”. Her skin color peeves its way through somehow and go on to become a hurdle for a man’s family, no matter how “typically dark” the mother of the son is. Her voice has to be perfect. Her vagina has to be intact. Men are also stereotyped by their incomes and habits. A man’s career is zillion times more important than a woman’s. Agreed? Her education level doesn’t matter but her flawless skills of cooking, cleaning and washing are “wanted”. I am not talking about me or you on an individual basis.
    I know we are undergoing a remarkable change. There are some amazing men out there who are marrying acid attack survivors, rape survivors, and specially abled beautiful souls, they cook, clean and run errands for their respective partners without even demanding dowry. But, it’s not what majority experiences. Men don’t have to bother about skin color, keeping their virginity intact, dowry issues, accepting rituals of dowry hungry family and what not. Even after marriage, the wife will be abandoned if she bears a girl child (in most cases). I can elaborate further but I am sure you are not interested in reading such a long reply. Our society is crooked haphazardly. It is up to us now to break free to make society better.

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