“Age is an issue of mind over matter”, said Mark Twain brilliantly. “If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.” However, marriage is based on some set notions and concepts, including the perfect age gap.
When it comes to a marriage, does age really matter? Can age difference actually help establish compatibility and ensure marital longevity? It is a union of two unique individuals; therefore, what makes that relationship work cannot be standardized.
The prejudice of perfect age gap in a marriage
It becomes all the more complex when one is unwilling to move the needle from hypotheticals built-in one’s head. It goes without saying that people should have non-negotiables. Nevertheless, it seems pointless to weed out individuals just because they are outside the prescribed age bracket. It is a waste of energy and opportunity to believe that a person cannot be suitable for you because he or she is a year or two younger or older than you expected. How about meeting them and deciding for yourself?
Is there any change?
People can be young or old at heart. One’s personality doesn’t depend on how long they have lived on this earth, nor do a few years significantly change their outlook.
Nowadays, more and more people are making their lives their own, prioritizing things that bring them absolute joy, not just momentary pleasure. If they pursue those ambitions, they are likely to get into a long-term relationship on the back burner. We actually come across a number of successful women who prefer their future partners to be considerably older, so they are on the same page financially and have confidence in their success.
What makes a marriage successful?
A successful marriage cannot be boiled down to a recipe. Many things make a marriage work, which ultimately determines its love language, power dynamics, and longevity. It seems unfair to judge people based on their number of trips around the sun.
There have been stories from around the world of people falling in love without knowing each other physically or at best at a distance of only six feet during the pandemic. These are prime examples of intellectual progress—the ability to adapt, empathize, and go beyond pre-conditioned prejudices for real connections. We are in 2022; let’s let go of our learned mindsets and let love blossom without boundaries. It’s time to free love!